Controlled Strength (+video)

Have you ever seen a little chihuahua barking at a pit-bull? The pit-bull could unleash his fury and send the little guy to doggy heaven, right? For the sake of this illustration, let’s pretend that the pit chooses to stay reserved and doesn’t use his strength to lash out. So too, we should follow this example as men and stay poised, keeping our emotions under control. Men, don’t react every time somebody messes with you or “pushes your buttons.” Determine to detach those strings that illicit a bad reaction from you and choose to take the high road. At times, you may need to show your growling teeth, but this should never be your first response.  Image result for chihuahua and big dogIf you can learn to “cut the chord” in reacting to people, you become untouchable! When you’re secure enough in yourself that you don’t need to explain, defend, or justify yourself to your accusers, you have stepped into a solid state as a man! If someone can get you to react, you’re not as rock-solid as you think. Let that sink in…

People who defend themselves often look guilty. The person who smiles in the face of the accuser and walks away unaffected conveys solid inner strength. Keep in mind, your “haters” give you free publicity and you don’t need to tackle every false or negative, comment made against you. You don’t have to fight every battle. Again, let that sink in…

“Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, ‘I will take revenge; I will pay them back,’ says the Lord. Instead, ‘If your enemies are hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads.’ Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.” – Romans 12:19-21 (NLT)

As men, we are wired to want action and adventure, but choosing to walk away with our heads held high is far more attractive. This shows leadership and control. Any weak-minded, little boy can get in a fight, but it takes a real man to walk away. Fist fighting and acting all “macho” are not the way to handle confrontations. Many guys seem to think that fighting is the “manly way” to show that they are real men who are not weak and who are not pushovers. Some men view fighting as a way to appear more superior to their challengers. These perspectives, though, are contrary to what God says should happen.

Yes, God has called us to protect our loved ones, but it doesn’t mean we should look for a fight to demonstrate how tough we are. Any dude can throw a punch at someone, but it makes him more of a man to be able to talk himself out of a hairy situation and walk away. The ability to control our tempers, emotions, and reactions is key to being a true leader.

“Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling.” “Don’t say, ‘I will get even for this wrong.’ Wait for the Lord to handle the matter.” – Proverbs 20:3, 22 (NLT)

A word to the wise when dealing with relationships, any woman who wants you to “prove” yourself by getting into a physical altercation with another guy over her is major trouble! Don’t do it! Also, choose to stay in control when a woman says something unpleasant to you. Take the high road and choose to protect her with your response. This is something I’ve really had to work on myself! Remember, God sees when you decide to bite your tongue in order to protect her.

When dealing with our enemies or persecutors, keep in mind that God’s response is way more severe than anything you can administer, so leave the repayment to Him and pray for your persecutors in the meantime. God, in NO way made us Christian men to be pushovers, but He also wants us to overlook offenses and “kill ’em with kindness.”

Overcome evil by doing good and STOP REACTING!

What does your inner strength and maturity say about you as a man?

CUT.THE.CHORD! Controlling our inner and outer strength is TRULY a leadership quality.

Sincerely, with All of God’s Love for You,

Jeremy D. Pestor




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