I’m not sure who needs to read this today but for you men and women out there longing for your “heart’s desire” to be fulfilled, I truly believe this will help…
Ladies: “A man who has given his heart to God will know and appreciate how valuable your heart is. Wait for the one who knows your worth, and knows his too.”
Waiting and holding out for God’s “very best” for you in His “perfect timing” while “preparing your field” and working on every aspect of your life to be able to offer your future partner a “whole” version of yourself is of the upmost importance. No person or relationship is perfect or will ever fully complete you because that’s God’s job alone at the center of one’s own heart and at the heart of your future relationship. This also means a truly strong, obedient man of God will not “taste the goods” of other women while he waits with a persevering heart to be “captivated” by his future “beloved’s” priceless value.
“But the Lord is with me like a mighty warrior; so my persecutors will stumble and not prevail. They will fail and be thoroughly disgraced; their dishonor will never be forgotten.” – Jeremiah 20:11
Men, strive to be a man of strong confidence who carries himself well in self-assurance, commitment, resolve, and perseverance and as a man who knows his worth and value in God as a son of the royal King, who is humble and teachable to be molded by God, not by her, and who deserves respect and to be treated accordingly by others, but won’t demand it from them. Be a man who will lead her in selfless love and pursuit out of obedience to God who rises above the crowd, not willing to tolerate less from others, and who is willing to walk along the lonely path of being alone in anticipation for God’s “very best” as you work on being “Mr. Right” rather than her “Mr. Right Now.”
Men, live your life as a man for the approval of One, your Father in Heaven, and not for the applause of others. Be a man of character, integrity, self-respect, self-control, and self-denial and one who practices purity and focuses on your relationship to God first, to lead your life accordingly for an audience of One. This is the kind of man who most women may never notice in a lineup of other attractive men, compared to their physical stature, but the heart of a Godly woman who’s doing the same in her life in preparation to find this man WILL notice this man as “quality recognizes quality” beyond what is seen and considered attractive to the eye according to what society says is appealing. He may not even be her usual “type” but her heart will cherish and see his worth.
“You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you.” – Isaiah 26:3
This kind of woman will also find her self-respect and self-worth in God alone and not from the attention of the plethora of “boy minions” who look to steal her gaze with the wrong kind of attention focused on her body’s sexual beauty. She will respect herself and future beloved enough to not draw extra attention to her sexuality but will wait to be “seen” and captivated by his eyes alone, regardless of how empowering it may feel for her in the moment of gaining other men’s attention. Instead though, she is willing to cover up her body in anticipation to reveal her sexual beauty to that man who deserves her heart and who has done the work to protect it when the time is right according to God’s plan in marriage.
“A woman of excellence: Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.’ Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.” – Proverbs 31:28-31
By doing this she realizes, she will find what her heart truly seeks and longs for the most from a man, rather than accepting it’s “cheap substitute” of temporary attention from other desperate boys who pose as “real men.” This kind of quality woman is willing to be temporarily overlooked by many and risk feeling alone to give respect one day to the man who is “man enough” to protect her heart and body, and who will see her true value, worth, and essence as a woman; that man who will recognize his future “beloved” when he comes across her path and will be proud of her and so thankful she chose to carry herself right in purity and in anticipation to find him as she realized long ago that he would be worth the sacrifice and wait, and a man she can fully entrust her heart to one day.
At best, this sets the bar pretty high as something to strive towards…
It’s very possible to do though. It’s a commitment to obedience out of love for God. You won’t be disappointed if you take on this courageous stand!
Sincerely, with All of God’s Love for You,
Jeremy David Pestor